i have my answer....

I did speak with him the other day and he isn't able to do anything for you. He feels very bad about the situation, and wishes he could help, but the answer is no.
I'm hope this will give you the closure you have been waiting for.
The courts do allow you to request that another outreach be made to your birthmother in 3 years. Were you aware of that? Maybe that is something you would want to consider.
Good Luck with all your endeavors,
Sandy

i have my answer. i wrote to the detective today asking her to contact the man who was originally believed to be my father until the dna test. he had been uncertain on whether he wanted to contact the man that he thought might be. i just don't understand and it's not that i don't want to. he had stated before that he wasn't sure he wanted to disrupt this guy's life. what about mine? he could help...he just doesn't want to...he WISHES he could help?!! he works with the man, it's not like he never see's him. all i ever wanted my whole life was a sense of my roots. i didn't want a second family...just a sense of where i come from. i have a mother that denies me so much so that she won't even release my medical records because the records aren't "pertinent to me" and no clue who my father is now. i have no idea if i'll try again in 3 years...why go through rejection a forth time? some days it's so hard to be happy.